It Must Be Love!
X-alt was a bit different this month with us trying it out in the main meeting area instead of the back hall. It was also different because we separated the guys and the girls! This was to allow some honest discussion about what the top 10 things that go towards making a "perfect" guy/girl are. There were also some statements to respond to and this is what we found...
According to the girls:
1. Most guys have no clue about how to act in front of girls they like.
67% TRUE 33% FALSE
2. Most guys expect girls to kiss them if they spend money on them or give them a little attention.
73% TRUE 17% FALSE
3. Most guys will stop being interested or drop you if you don’t give them what they want physically.
47% TRUE 53% FALSE
4. Most guys want you to be interested in what they do but don’t care much about girls’ interests.
67% TRUE 33% FALSE
5. Most guys couldn't care less if girls are smart or dumb, as long as they’re good looking.
67% TRUE 33% FALSE
6. Most guys will hang out with friends instead of girls they like (unless the guys are trying to establish
the relationship).
87% TRUE 13% FALSE
7. Most guys are naturally romantic.
27% TRUE 73% FALSE
8. Most guys will brag to other guys about what they do with their girlfriends.
53% TRUE 47% FALSE
9. Most guys try too hard to impress girls.
47% TRUE 53% FALSE
10. Most guys don’t have a clue about how girls think or feel.
73% TRUE 17% FALSE
According to the guys:
1. Most girls aren’t happy unless they have boyfriends.
63% TRUE 37% FALSE
2. Most girls will go out with guys they don’t really like if the guys invite them to places the girls really
want to go.
25% TRUE 75% FALSE
3. When on a date, most girls expect a guy to open doors for them, pull out their chairs for them at the
table, and so on.
63% TRUE 37% FALSE
4. Most girls have no idea how boring it is for guys to go shopping with them.
56% TRUE 44% FALSE
5. Most girls who dress sexy know they’re sending a message to guys about what they’re willing to do
physically.
56% TRUE 44% FALSE
6. Most girls will dump guys if other guys with more money come along.
13% TRUE 87% FALSE
7. Most girls share their secrets with their friends.
94% TRUE 6% FALSE
8. Most girls expect way too much from guys they date in high school.
63% TRUE 37% FALSE
9. Most girls worry too much about their weight and their looks.
88% TRUE 12% FALSE
10. Most girls have no idea how a guy thinks.
88% TRUE 12% FALSE
These interesting results and the top 10s we made reveal something of our expectations. We looked at
1 Corinthians 13 and thought about what this has to say about these things.
There is a danger that we have such high expectations that we can never commit to anyone in case someone better comes along. Another danger is that we expect so much of others, and they of us, that it puts our relationships under too much pressure. When it comes to our deep needs, only God can meet them - we will get into trouble if we try and get someone else to meet them. But if we're secure in God who loves us perfectly, and know that he is at work in us, then we can grow in love.
1 John 4:19 says, "we love because God first loved us". We need God's love if we are going to love.
As an act of response to this message we looked again at
1 Corinthians 13:4-7. We cut out heart shapes and wrote on them one aspect of love where we need God to help us develop. We took these to put them somewhere to remind us to keep on asking God to do this.
Labels: girls, guys, love, X-alt
